the timing is really bad for this post, but for reasons im not gonna go into, im gonna become a guest on this forum rather than posting.

i think ive said everything i wanna say about most things, and i dont hold any grudges or whatever.

please dont think this is an attempt to get some attention for myself. there is a reason completely unconnected to anything anyone has said here.

im sorry if you have found me to be rather annoying. i guess thats how it goes sometimes.

and ye i know i have said this a million times b4, but this time, unfortunately, fate has swung my hand to make it reality.

or whatever. ill be here for about another hour or half hour if u got something pressing u want to tell me : P and then im gonna log off.

Your call, but don't.

lets be clear- this is something that is going to happen.

its not something that i need to be persuaded for or against- its a done thing.

thanks but its happening.

and anway, its no big deal - ill still be reading you all.

Look after yourself, Opal/Lav. I'll still be hoping to see you again, though.

thx v much : )

Take care.

thanks : D

oks im off now. anything else u wanna say to me will not get a reply : P

kk thx bai : D

Come back soon. Good luck. :)

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You'll be missed, by me, at least. :(

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:lol: E She's a card.

For the past 5 or so years (correct me if I'm wrong) this individual has followed the following pattern:

1. starts posting under a new username
2. starts multiple threads about herself & frivolous subjects e.g. being bored, in order to get attention
3. complains about the regulars on this board being "boring" etc, while using her illness to elicit sympathy
4. makes a big gesture out of threatening to leave while a few suckers who've only witnessed one incarnation plead "don't go"
5. disappears for a few months before returning to start the cycle all over again

This forum has been remarkably troll-free. In my opinion, no member has had such a deleterious effect on the forum than mimi/lavendercat/opel/whatever.

I reported Opel's comment on ts's thread (and I would hope and expect I was not the only one to do so). That situation was and is very worrying and distressing, and everyone reacted with intelligence and compassion: except one person who essentially encouraged the original poster's suicide and tacked on some irrelevant new age bullshit, in the most disgustingly self-gratifying way. Where she is usually merely an irritant, I think that this was far more serious.

I have known many people who have suffered from depression and other illnesses, but never one who has habitually used this as an excuse for callousness (amongst other things). For anyone who is less jaded than me and has some sympathy for this individual, consider whether her being allowed to repeat the cycle above is healthy, and consider how you perpetuate this by pandering to the "little girl lost" routine.

I have enjoyed this forum for years and my dream is NEVER TO HEAR FROM THIS PERSON AGAIN. I don't want to know if she's alive or dead. I would suggest her IP address is blocked voluntarily or otherwise but that's not my decision to make.

I understand that this post may contravene forum rules & may be deleted but I think someone had to say this, especially as I know that I'm not the only one to feel this way. I apologise for breaking my silence on this matter & giving in to anger when there's more serious things going on.

That is just plain nasty, worthless. If there was ever a fofer in genuine need of our understanding and sympathy it would be Opel.

that's a matter of opinion

In other words, you're saying u actually agree with the sentiments in worthless' post? :confused:

i'm saying that i don't think he posted out of plain nastiness, that's all

Frederick II, you're right to a certain extent - perhaps some of what I said was plain nasty. But I think that anyone who's had to put up with this shit for years on end would have some sympathy with at least some of what I said, as would anyone who genuinely wants Opel to get any better. I don't think "understanding & sympathy" is something that should be doled out on demand of a manipulative person. I've had to help people very close to me through harrowing situations much worse than those trumpeted by opel/mimi/lavendercat/etc while she was whining yet again. I'm disappointed more people don't seem to agree with at least parts of what I said, though I see evidence of only one dissenting voice.

it's two people now, right cha?

YOu think the guy is going to be pushed over the edge by a couple of comments? you really think its gonna make the difference?

YOu think he's come on here to be dissuaded? You think the hand-wringing is really gonna make a difference?

It seems he has something better to do for the coming week anyway

wtf am i supposed to do with this ???????????????

read it and weep ?????????????

maybe for the next 5 years you could give everyone else a special character assassination listing all their faults point by point.

thats what you're good at, pointing out other peoples mistakes ???

fucking great. now i get to think all day about what a manipulative, self serving useless peice of shit i am.

do me another one why dont you.

and by the way, i am "better." this is me, better.

you cant honestly expect me to read that and say nothing.

wtf are you trying to achieve ?

i was trying to help that suicidal guy.. i respected his decision and if you think ther new age stuff is bullshit thats your problem, not mine.

how can you use something like that to make a case against me, its like attack of the fucking daily mail readers.

you honestly want me to get better and thats your motivation ?

oh please. youve just never liked me. i hardly even notice you exept when you post one of these fucking attacks on my character.

maybe you should become a lawyer.

and again, for fucks sake man !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what the fuck do you want me to do about it ???????????????????

no I don't think any of that.
but what exactly was your intention in greeting a suicidal person's announcement that he's postponing his suicide with the words "Oh , for fucks sake" accompanied by a "nike - just do it" advert?

The former -out of frustration at the guy's manipulation, the latter: I thought that was not appropriate so removed it. Bbut now that you have done exactly the same for him to see ..oh dear..."that poor woman, her life was in your hands.".what have you done?

help me, somebody, what am i gonna do about that fucking thing posted above ?????????

maybe say thankyou ??

thankyou for enlightening me :sick: about my fucked up behavoiur :sick: and im terribly sorry that you had to make the effort to type it out :cry: :sick:

might be best to follow through with what you said you were gonna do-you know the purpose of the thread...just leave for a while and chill

ok.

thx m8.

i am highlighting that there was more than one person encouraging a potential suicide
referring to your "just do it" does not mean i think he should "just do it"

You may very well be right but I dont dwell upon the reasons why people post certain things - I prefer to judge them solely by the words on the page, and worthless has had the courage to at least acknowledge he was a little nasty.

Judging from her reaction above, I dont think Opel is thick-skinned enough to be unaffected by what has been said. It cant be pleasant for anyone to read such things being said about them - however wrong and misguided it may be. However, I hope she realises it is just one person's opinion and that not all of us judge her as harshly. I might have complained about her tendency to repeat herself, but that is where my problem with her starts and finishes.

That is the beauty of an internet forum; if one has a presence on the internet then others are gonna be able to pass judgement upon you. There's nowt u can do about it. The best thing to do is to at least appear as though u are unaffected by it.

YOU BASTARD. YOU FUCKING CUNT. I HATE YOU AND I HOPE YOU DIE.

I KNEW YOU WOULD DO THAT. I KNEW IT. cos thats the kind of person you are.

doe you fucking shit motherfucker.