Title: Once a drug user, always a drug user.
AngelHalo - April 22, 2008 12:52 AM (GMT)
Okay, so let me fill you in on a little back story of my sister and her boyfriend (though, the topic is mainly about the boyfriend)
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Okay, so I have a sister who is about 19 years old. She's been going out with her Boy-friend for over two years. She gave birth to a girl about five months ago, and here's the backstory.
My sister dropped out of High School because she took advantage of the car my parents gave her and nearly always went any where but school. She was absent too many times to where my parents were forced by truancy to sign her out of school (or other wise, face charges). She lost that vehicle, and I currently drive that car now. Her boy-friend had a cool looking vehicle and was the typical "Bad-ass looking guy" who actually isn't as dumb as I thought, but still pretty irresponsible in most areas. There was a time when my Sister and her boy-friend rented an apartment for a few months until eventually not having enough money because they both lost their jobs (my sister basically quit because she wanted to stay with him). My parents allowed them to stay until they can get jobs and the money to move out again. Now here's the conflict moment, I have another sister, though doesn't look as beautiful, and is a homosexual, she is very smart, had a job at the bank before moving out and always looked out for me (she was the second oldest in the family, and I'm the youngest, and she was also involved in many fights, only loosing one because she was sucker punched on the job). My sister's boy-friend didn't like her, in fact, all his friends made death-threats against her. Why is this piece of info important? Well, my sisters boy-friend was known for smoking weed, and my whole family is against illegal drugs 100%, but we allowed him to stay as long as he doesn't smoke. It was until then, my older sister discovered weed in a safe (which also contained $1,000). Not liking the situation, she decided to move the safe outside and call the police to have it removed from our property. My sister's boy-friend found out about this, and then trashed up my older sister's bed-room and yelled at my mother. He was eventually kicked out of the house, though my mother told my sister that she is always welcome here, but only her. My sister was pregnant during this period. A few months later, My sister's boy-friend cleaned up his act, abandon the weed, and decided to apologize to my parents. Afterwards, he was living with us again, but not without being lectured by my father to get a job, which he did. A few months later, my niece was born, and another month later, my sister, her boy-friend and their daughter moved out to a house.
Now with the back story aside, here's the situation right now. So they both don't have a high-school education, but they do have their GEDs. My sister works at a deli restaurant, and her boy-friend is now job-less for some reason. Most times when they aren't able to spend time for their daughter, they leave her to my parents care. The baby is actually quite smart for her age. She's only five months old and right now she's learning how to sit, play, crawl, and even understand a couple of things I'm saying. My sister has only been feeding her milk, while my mom fed her some food when she is hungry, including milk. It seems my sister doesn't know much about her child because my niece was sick and my sister assumed she was okay, and she also thinks the only food she should have is milk (baby formula), though I don't know about her boy-friend. |
So now to my current situation.
So, once a drug user, always a drug user. My sister's boyfriend came over and brought some laundry to do (because they don't have a washer or dryer at their house). He left around 4:30 pm, and around 6 was when my mother was finishing the laundry, but discovered a tiny plastic bag of pot. After a simple google search, yes, my first time seeing pot in person. I know much about it, but never used it, nor plan on to. So my mother decided to leave the bag on top of the washer machine, waiting for my sister and her boyfriend to return.
I knew there was something wrong when I heard that my sister was just supporting him. Well, he has a job now, at a sandwich shop, but there is no way in hell I'm letting anyone in the neighborhood see this filth. Him and I are pretty good friends, though I had my suspicions on him. To think the lecture my parents gave him was enough, months later, he went back to doing it. It's a wonder how he got fired from his construction job.
So, any advice for the current situation, preferably, before he gets back. He might yell at my parents again, but I'm built enough and so is my dad if worse comes to worse, and I'm not afraid to deliver a dragon kick (I'm being serious here). I'd just hate to see a young family going to break up if that is to happen.
Oh, and if anyone is curious, if for any reason my sister is seen unfit to take care of my niece, she'll be in the care of my parents (woo, restrictions on my stereo from now on, GREAT! Not that I don't care about her, but the last thing I need is tears flowing from her eyes at night and my parents yelling at me).
Number 49 - April 22, 2008 01:06 AM (GMT)
It's VERY hard for people to quit drugs cold-turkey. This guy should be commended for trying, and for apparently suceeding for awhile. But everyone needs help, and what he should look into is some kind of rehab. Not "in and out" rehab, but some real intensive treatment. He seems like he CAN be responsible if he puts for the effort, but it'll sure as hell take SOME effort.
AngelHalo - April 22, 2008 01:20 AM (GMT)
I like the way you think #49. Of course, it really is going to take a lot of effort, because he just kind of...sits and watches TV since he got fired from his previous job. I'm surprised to see that he's being responsible again, but up to this point, I believe it's going to take more than "SOME" effort to help him.
0ctane - April 22, 2008 01:39 AM (GMT)
Well.
Drugs. I have many friends who do drugs and none who want to quit. To them, weed/pot isn't a bad thing. It's just a way to have fun. If the guy is a parent, he probably needs to not smoke weed. From what I've heard of one of my better pot smoking friends, this little bag is a nickel bag, a bag of whatever drug that you use just to forget your problems, whenever it gets too bad. Before yelling at him, or anything of the sort, try to get some honest answers out of him. "Have you been smoking recently? How long, did you plan on trying to quit again, do you do it around your daughter?" I doubt he would, especially if he was acting responsibly. If he's been trying to keep it a secret, then he knows you don't want him to do it and that he should try and quit again. Hell, he may be even trying to quit now.
Anywho, hope I've shed some light on this with my knee deep pot knowledge. Just think of the Mongols.
AngelHalo - April 22, 2008 02:24 AM (GMT)
Looks like they took the easy way out: EXCUSE!
They told my parents that it's something medical, salva or how ever you spell it. I somehow doubt it, of course at least nothing really happened. Thanks for your support.
Korvaz - April 22, 2008 05:58 AM (GMT)
It's pot. It's not like he's firing up crystal meth. Calm down.
Alastor Blackrose - April 22, 2008 02:21 PM (GMT)
| QUOTE (Korvaz @ Apr 21 2008, 10:58 PM) |
| It's pot. It's not like he's firing up crystal meth. Calm down. |
This. I really honestly don't see what the big is with pot.
Tahuman - April 22, 2008 02:34 PM (GMT)
Actually most drug dealers lace pot or whatever they're selling with crystal meth to get you addicted faster.
And before anyone asks, no I do not do drugs I have not done drugs and I don't plan on doing drugs in the future.
That will be all
Korvaz - April 22, 2008 03:03 PM (GMT)
| QUOTE (Tahuman @ Apr 22 2008, 03:34 PM) |
Actually most drug dealers lace pot or whatever they're selling with crystal meth to get you addicted faster.
And before anyone asks, no I do not do drugs I have not done drugs and I don't plan on doing drugs in the future.
That will be all |
I also heard every time you download music, you're downloading communism. Filthy, filthy red propaganda.
Buy RIAA. doubleplus good.
MYKE - April 22, 2008 04:39 PM (GMT)
I've only had conversations about pot with like, 4 different people from TFS, and only one of you actually knew what the fuck he was talking about.
So let me just say this with small words so you can understand me better.
Pot is not as bad as people make it up to be.
You don't get addicted after one puff.
You don't want to kill your family for more.
You don't end up on the street constantly binging.
You don't suck dick for dope.
You don't hallucinate, its not fucking acid.
And no, its not worse then alcohol or smokes.
Dope isn't that bad, infact its not so bad at all, all you get is a little tired, happy, and hungry.
All these answers I had to tell to people from TFS.
Do some god damn research thats not from a Anti-marijuana website, perhaps from a actual scientific one.
And stop fucking using video game references to everything.
Streea Barra - April 22, 2008 10:27 PM (GMT)
I live in an entire village that does dope. (To the point that people in my village have been asked, "So, what part of the grow-op are you?"). So far? I've never seen a bad thing about it. Makes people a tad slow and forgetful. But really, the worse you have to worry about? Your snack cupboard. Honestly, this isn't too much of a deal unless he starts hitting heavy stuff.
Keeper Takura - April 22, 2008 11:03 PM (GMT)
The drugs would be the least concern here, Tell your sister to go back and get some sort of fucking diploma because she's goin nowhere fast without it, same goes for the doper.
I honestly feel bad for the baby, as thats not exactly the most encouraging environment, so in actuality, I kinda hope your parents get to take her in, as they'd prolly do a better job, regardless of restrictions on you.
Look at it in the long run, you want the potential of watching that kid grow up to be like your sister or her boyfriend?
I don't mean to sound offensive, but I look down upon people who can't handle four years of the educational grind.
Number 49 - April 22, 2008 11:48 PM (GMT)
To clarify my position on marijuana, I do think he needs to get off it. But not because he's gonna go nuts and kill his baby or anything. I've done the stuff before, and it really just makes you lazy and hungry.
The problem is, using it for recreational purposes makes you pass your time away sitting on the couch, giggling at things that aren't funny. It PROMOTES laziness and makes being bored and doing nothing okay. When a better use of that time would be working, or studying to get a better education.
He should get off the stuff. Not because it's gonna make him choke his wife, but because it's going to make him do NOTHING, and that's tragic.
