Well I've finally had it, I've gotten sick and tired of the bullshit and problems the people of this social life I have attained, they come to me with their problems, ideas and plans that never work and as honoured as I thought it was, it's now become to the point that I'm everyones emo post, and now its putting alot of unwanted stress on my life that I don't want, I can't sleep because I keep thinking of how I can help solve their issues, or what will happen because I may have said something wrong, having to go with them on their events all over the place. Hell I ended up getting into a fight with a guy because one of them shouted racial slurs and ran off leaving me to deal with it, ending in a bruised tail bone and spontaneous nosebleeds for two days.

So in an attempt to fix whatever damage that it's starting to do to my health, insomnia, possible ulcer and headaches, I'm pretty much going to renounce the social life I've had, although I feel kinda empty at the thought because I always wanted to have people outside the internet world that I could call friends, and now that I have them, I can't stand it anymore.

Thats about it :O

Well, don't be too hasty, Takura. The last thing you want to do is completely isolate yourself.
From where I'm sitting, it looks like your friends see you as a shoulder to cry/whinge on because you're a sympathetic and friendly sort. Maybe rather than cutting yourself off from them, you should just try distancing yourself a bit.

I dunno. I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but becoming a hermit isn't much fun.

I used to be a Hermit postal, I enjoyed it because it was quiet, I could do what I wanted without other people butting in, telling me what to do and after all the hustle that this social group I have been in since January, I long for it once again.

And I'm already seen as the crying shoulder because it's rare that I go about expressing my 'real' problems to people, this is one of those times.

Don't cut everyone all at once, that won't solve anything, and will just cause a lot more problems. Trust me, I've tried. Instead, just kind of tell them you can't be their shoulder all the time, tell them, to talk to someone else about it, that it's hurting you far to much to help them out, because you feel to obligated because they are, of course, your friends.

I suggest, keeping a few open slots to the people you truly want to help, ones who have been there for you when you needed them. Screw the others for the time being. It's harsh, but what needs to be done sometimes.

Amazingly, I have tried that, then the others I tell to butt out become impatient, moody and so on to the point that they're at the status of the people i am trying to help.
And telling them that I can't be there for them all the time, to them, thats like saying. Go kill urself plz and be done with it, and I probably wouldn't last long with the guilt if someone actually went through with it, as afew of them have tried to kill themselves before >:

Well Keeper, it sounds like you have the same problem I once had. People see you as a WOE sponge, a person they can give all there sorrows to so that they can live happily. Like many others have said, "it's good to help people, but not when you get hurt in the process". One suggestion I might giveis following their example, and talking to someone YOU trust about this problem of people constantly seeking you out for advice or a shoulder to cry on. I talked to a friend of mine about it, and I felt a lot better afterwards.

I heard during a listening seminar at a Youth retreat that when people come to you with problems, they usually don't want advice, even if they literally ask for advice. Apparently, advice is just a roadblock of conversation, and all people really want is someone who will listen to them.

Personally, I didn't believe it, and still habitually dish out advice whenever I have any. I think it's just a matter of how much capacity you have for helping others. Whenever I can't think of a solution for someone else's problem, I just tell them exactly that. It's important to let someone know if you can't help them, or else they'll be expecting help (naturally).

P.S. If it really is true that people don't really want advice when they ask for it, does that make this post a paradox? Does it make this entire Life Issues section a paradox?

I have people come to me all the time with their problems. I generally only talk to people that talk to me, but I can't cut people off entirely. Just relax. You can also learn a thing or to from these kinds of people actually. I avoided a majority of mistakes just watching other people make mistakes and then tell me about it and ask for help. For that, I am somewhat grateful. For that reason, I almost always help people in anyway that I can because I too can profit from it...by acquiring knowledge. Hell, I've even become very popular because of helping people. Just don't have them calling you at all hours of the night sobbing and disturbing you in your sleep. That would be BAD.

Long Story Short: It's life. No matter how f'ed up life gets, you have to try to find the positive hidden in the negative (I know, I'm such a nerd).