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TOYI1SOCCER - February 26, 2005 07:16 PM (GMT)
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TOYI1SOCCER

[:angel:


Disclamer:

The Opinion posted here is mine and mine alone, it is not the Opinion of Cartoon Orbit: the Complete Guide, it's staff, or any of it's members.

This topic will be posted on irregular basis, and is subject to feed back through PMs if you want or wish to participate or have questions about my posts, I will hold special events sometimes, like interviews or sharing of other people experiences.

This topic is solely & meant for the sharing of my thoughts with you. I do not pretend to impose what I write here, but use it as a testimony of what helped me to overcome habits, behaviors that were very strong in early stages in my life..

I am pretty certain that we as humans feel the same kind of things, because we are the same in the basics & because

“Every bad man has something good & every good man has something bad”

TOYI1SOCCER - March 3, 2005 06:05 PM (GMT)
okay here my first post :P

What Cognitive Dissonance means?

Cognitive:
Having a basis in or reducible to empirical factual knowledge.

in simple words:
Discrepancy withing my knowledge and my Practice.

i.e. I red the Driver’s manual and I know what should I do, now I get into the car but the application of the knowledge I have in my head turns into a real challenge in the right application of:
what I red in the manual & The practice of what i red in the manual.


Dissonance:

1: a conflict of people's opinions or actions or characters.
2: the auditory experience of sound that lacks musical quality; sound that is a disagreeable auditory experience;i.e. "modern music is just noise to me".
3: disagreeable sounds

i.e. The music is a great sample I will pull a guitar, I need to tune the strings to the right level to make the harmony work and fix the dissonance.


Cognitive Dissonance:
Inconsistency between the beliefs one holds or between one's actions and one's beliefs.


Thank you for reading and see you the next time...with some interesting stuff...

TOYI1SOCCER - April 22, 2005 04:23 AM (GMT)
Humanity:

Is a specie made of a very complex composition, more complex than what our minds can reach & understand. We know that we exist, but we don’t know from where or how exactly came from; according to this we have developed some theories and myths that we use as support. Humanity works through an auto government philosophy, money, Power, freedom, sentimental relationships, crisis, fine moments, etc that are the adds of thousands of generations since the beginning of times.
No one has gone to the core of human hearts to discover what really holds. We can’t get to know perfectly anybody, unless we start knowing ourselves deeply discovering our nature to the point to understand how fragile we are….

As Earth has its beauty which makes it special, same way human beings are composed by: Soul, Body & Spirit. also forming a trinity.

1- Body: Is our Physical organism, is like the armor that guards the Soul & Spirit.
2- Soul: Splits in 3 very important aspects.
· Mind: We use to think.
· Emotions: allow us to feel.
· Will: Help us decide.

3- Spirit: Is our source of life & what makes our body move.

Every aspect holds an alive structure that benefits or damage our existence depending on the use we are willing to give it.

B) See you next time.

TOYI1SOCCER - May 6, 2005 04:25 AM (GMT)
What makes human different than animals? Lets see a couple of meanings.

Animal:
A living creature that behaves in a bestial or brutish manner.

A human:
The composite of characteristics that make up an individual personality; the self.

Here where I want to go, what makes human different than animals?
Animals only have the beast in them. (Which I will call this time: Horse)
But humans have the “beast” >horse, but also have the chance to develop “Character” (which I will call this time: The horseman).

Human specie comes with a special package of fallen nature since they are borne & while growth occurs, they find out about this nature and learn to manipulate it since very early stages.

Here some of those natural characteristics that are part of “The beast” in a human body:
Madness
fool
Misleading
Self-centered
Empowering
Careless
Irresponsible
Liar
Angered
Convenient, etc etc

As you can see this [“beast” (horse)] area in a human can be easily compared to a regular animal, because the behaviors are exactly the same.

Here we will find the second human fact [“The Character” (horseman)] that unfortunately does not come with the package when we are borne, but needs to be taught as well in order to domain the beast.

Here some of those building characteristics that are part of “ The character” and as we spoke is specially granted to become The horseman to domain over the beast.
Responsibility
Kindness
Self control
Happiness
Truth
Care
Responsibility
Service etc

As you can see for each characteristic the beast has, there is also a horseman characteristic that makes horseman be on top of the beast, if properly built.

See you until next time
:angelic:







TOYI1SOCCER - May 18, 2005 05:28 AM (GMT)
Today I will compare human personality with TA DA (Diamonds and Graphite)

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The internal structure of graphite shows strong bonds within planes and weak forces between them.
The internal structure of diamond shows equally strong bonds in all directions

As you may have read before, Diamonds and Graphite are composed by the same amount of atoms.... but Why is Graphite's structure so different than diamond's even if they are both composed of carbon?

Here where I want to point at.
The key lies in the very important fact called "Structure"

Humanity in order to grow strong, physically and also psycologically requires a good structure founded in the bottom of family. (diamond)
Humans with lack of structure tend to be weaker physically and also psycologically, full of hesitation and with the tendency to give up easely on life situations. (Graphite)

Is said that Most of the great thinkers, phylosophers from all times, were who they were thanks to structure on their lives, actually to be an inventor like Davinci is not necesary to "know everything", but the basics as well, by this therm I get back to what is called structure, because will function in the same way a home structure works. To built something all you need is a good structure, one that can support everything that you want to build on top. No matter the situations and the devatating circunstances if the structure is solid, you can always get up and rebuilt what was taken down.

Do I think in what I believe or do I believe in what I think?
How do I read myself?
To answer this > Do I think in what I believe? Yes I do, because is easier for me to follow instructions written in a manual (as is the common thing to do).
To answer this> do I believe in what I think? No I don't because following myself with no guidance I will develop something called >> Emotional Dictature where emotions becomes the captain of my boat and they could sail with no direction missing the point of guidance and center ideas.

See you until next time
:angel:

Malach - May 18, 2005 02:01 PM (GMT)
Sorry to interrupt this, but why don't you get a blog? This would be perfect subject matter for a blog, and it would also be more interactive.

Blogger.com

Go here and you can have a Cognitive Dissonance Blog set up in a hour, and link it back here.

TOYI1SOCCER - May 26, 2005 02:28 PM (GMT)
Coming soon

TOYI1SOCCER will interview her dear younger brotha...

If you have any questions "like why the chiken crossed the road?" or politics or school or etc etc you can PM them to me... you can ask him just about anything. Well still count that the questions have to be specific and not stupid and they can be more than one. lol

I tell you I still have to figure out how we are going to be online at the same time, but the point is announced.

I will notify you with the date few days in advance.

^_^

TOYI1SOCCER - May 29, 2005 03:47 AM (GMT)
I will talk about "Technology" today

What "Technology" means in a dictionary?

The discipline dealing with the art or science of applying scientific knowledge to practical problems

Okay, what I understand by "Technology" ?
Is the quantity of theories classified in laws and Principles. Technology is an art created by humans that reflect the level of perfection or imperfection, good or bad, practical or convenient application of science.

Why perfection or imperfection?
Perfect: Because the planet has certain parameters that had been found & matched by human beings, processed through some laws and Principles that allows to give an accurate answer.
i.g. The Pi, 2+2=4 etc etc
Imperfect: Because its creators are not perfect and that leads to an error point somewhat.There are things that are not measurable by any scale or number and those remind us that technology is not everything but only a great possibility as well. i.e. Happiness, God, sadness, distrust, intelligence, etc etc can't be calculated by any numbers and there is where the Technology fails from its perfect side.

Practical and convenient?
Practical: Technology again is the best science helper and have developed a lot based on human needs and to satisfy their excistance.
Convenient: I don't totally go 100% for technology , why? because as human heart; technology also can damage and I am talking about the convenient use & development of technology to destroy, ruin, and even take human lives also.

Good or bad?
Good: When is predetermined and is based on set principles that leads to an expected positive result in which humanity will benefit from.
Bad: To me I will recall "Astrology" why? because assumes statements that are merely assigned but are lack of objective & truthfull results, saying and even asuring that human lives are influenced by stars and gives patented behaviors acording to each constelation i.e. like why Virgo don't get along with Cancer, those statements cannot be proven and will be supported merely by imagination or who knows? etc etc.lol

see you until next time, again, I will interview my dear brother later on... if you have questions for him and would like to share please PM them to me. :P :ninja:

:angelic:

TOYI1SOCCER - June 5, 2005 04:37 AM (GMT)
Sunday 06/05/05 8PM Maryland time... I will be interviewing my younger Brother lol

stay tuned! again if you have some questions for him, please PM them to me. lol
:ninja:

man we are late for the interview, lol still coming, my brotha had some emergency lol still up to run tonight :ninja:

TOYI1SOCCER - June 6, 2005 02:48 AM (GMT)
Okay TA DA!!!! Toyi's opening is a bit by pass.
My brother is here and he will share some answers from his nightmare ! lol :ninja:

Hey dear brother how are you? How you feel being here?

cata - June 6, 2005 02:59 AM (GMT)
oh well my user name is Cata though i would not mind to give my real name is not like i am an undercover o.k. i feel very good, and flattered you know i feel surprised that you as my sister ask me for an interview you know how we just to be, angry at each other and rejectin each others ideas as well. that was back then now we have a different perspective of life and sharin thoughts, convictions and ideals has brought us togheter. anything else youd like to know?

TOYI1SOCCER - June 6, 2005 03:03 AM (GMT)
uhh lol :ninja:

I know you do write a lot & you are very good, what is your inspiration and can you tell me a bit more about your lyrics? :ninja:

cata - June 6, 2005 03:35 AM (GMT)
o.k. to many compliments, for real i do not think i am that good because sometimes i believe i can do much better. i am a rapper, and i write a lot sometimes not so often, it all depends on the experiences i live trough the dayly routine. i love hip hop, i wish i could have the skill to write hip hop in english, i have done it before but i still suck, i sound like a amateur that`s never gonna make it, instead i write in spanish, now you ask me what`s my inspiration but instead i`m gonna tell you who`s my inspiration and is J.C. the greatest M.C. of all times the master of a different Kingdom Jesus Christ. my life gave a 180 degree change when i was 18 years old when i found myself confused but i was apparently not confused because i was enjoying the life that God gave me only that i was enjoyin it in the wrong way. so questions poped out of my mind about the existance of God and what`s good what`s bad? is there heck and heaven? or heaven is just a dream, like a drug to not accept the reality that we all die. is there salvation? is faith real? and i can go on and on listin the questions i had but is more interesting to share about this little by little, by dose like a prescription. so a lot of my lirics are about the answers to this questions and also about how human nature is, our fears, our intentions, our thoughts, our perceptions, our judgements etc. i`m a little different then usual Gospel that concentrate in worship God and is alright but many do not confront our lives with the truth. if you read the bible Jesus was never easy in his teachings. and i wanna be like him not be him but like him just as anybody has a rol model to follow

TOYI1SOCCER - June 6, 2005 03:39 AM (GMT)
Okay since we are getting to the word "beliefs" I would like to ask you to share your opinion about the difference beteen God & religion?

:P

cata - June 6, 2005 04:26 AM (GMT)
before anything else everybody is free to believe what they want to believe, i don`t think i will ever finish ansewring this question cause is never ending, is a life experience. i bet this question is hardly brought up cause many people can not make a difference between God and religion, let me tell you straight God is pureness and kind, religion is a bussiness. religion sells Christ as a product. example of messages from churches to bring the attention are: " come to Christ and worry about nothing" " Christ did everything for you, live happy"
there`s is no difference between that then wallmart or any other advertisement to bring customers, to increase numbers, sales, activities, reputation. now take a look at the bible in mathew and find out how Jesus bussiness are and what he does to bring people`s attention, read Mathew chapter 10 youll see what takes to follow Jesus. religion divides, religion condemns people if you do not belong to a certain group or church, the definition of church has been twisted, the concept of church is not a building built out of bricks that if you don`t go you go to heck, religion try to reach God by works and that`s gonna be another interesting topic that i will write about later WHERE RELIGION COMES FROM AND HOW DID IT STARTED? when we try to reach God only by works we become hipocrits, because we are imperfects because today we sin, tomorrow we behave, and human being is like that so how do i reach God? only by Jesuschrist, o.k. that`s it, i know i may face controversy with people`s opinions and if somebody has any question i`ll try to answer it, now i don`t have all the answers but i have the answer and is Jesuschrist. ther is no dumb questions or crazy questions example:
HOW CAN YOU BELIEVE IN SOMEBODY THAT YOU CAN`T SEE?
my answer was another question how can you believe in the air that you breath if you can not see it either?things happen around you without percievin i`m not tryin to give you logic and reasonable answers so you can believe, God is about faith i guess more questions will arise as i go so its enough
WHAT`S SIN AND WHAT`S NOT AND DOES SIN EXIST ?

that`s it

TOYI1SOCCER - June 6, 2005 04:29 AM (GMT)
Okay, I think is enough for today, I will glad to have you next time, I am thinking to keep this interview going and going, Thank you once more for pleasing your big sister, I never expected that you would say yes to my offer to come. Thank you and we will continue our little interview later and ahead.

:angel:

cata - June 6, 2005 04:34 AM (GMT)
o. k. thanks a lot for havin me here and in another time well expand the topic a little more. if one of the members read spanish i`ll be glad to share my lyrics . long live to hip hop as a tool for the kingdom.


to be continued

:angelic: :innocent:

TOYI1SOCCER - June 16, 2005 04:47 AM (GMT)
Today I will talk about the word Good & Bad Judgement :ninja:

This will be cooler if you try to answer these questions on your own... if you have ever thought about it.

Why Human being can't stop thinking and Judging?
Why do I need to check out certain movie to see if the actor did a good or bad job?
What makes the actor Bad?
What makes the actor good?
If is a good actor... because his/her way of acting appeals to the "Idea" of what "Good acting" means to you? otherwise is a bad actor?
Why we envy that actor? and what we envy from that actor?

Maybe we never realized that we have the same capacity that actor has!
Or maybe I think is a "good actor" only because is cute!
Or I like him because he has the same skin color I have!
Or because he/her support Democrats or republicans!

well if you guys notice... all of the above is based merely in what our head approves and disaproves coming out from our own point of view and own source unless that we think is following certain & specific guidelines to stick to.

Yeah yeah I like the neighbor, because she always bring me a cake, but the day my neighbor does not bring that yumi cake, I reject her not only physically but also in my hears and I get angry against her.... why I get mad against her? because she did not bring me what I wanted? (Just by this we can see how childish we could be lol) is common in humanity to worship what satisfy me personally and reject what makes me work twice or does not spoils me, but we can always try to be different then the rest.

What knowledge means?
What did you learn this year so far?

When we are studying we have a goal, but maybe you have noticed that after you get your Master, what you past those study years is varely in your head.... why? because your goal was not "To know about what you were studying" your goal was to get the master... (Of course not in every case).
I have proven "BY myself" that I can remember anything has longest is the main interest I have in w/o any dificulty...

i.e. Why a teen remembers Britney Spear's songs with amaizing detail but cannot remember that she needs to be home by 3:PM as her dad told her to? easy, again motivations and convinience and this could be unconcious... "I need to know the songs so I can brag about it with my friends" but what a boaring to be an obedient kid....lol :blink:

Our knowledge does not reflect the shadow of what we are, because we have the concepts, but the practice is poor.
i.e. We can have a concept of the character "honesty" (No stealing, no lying, speak always the truth no matter the consequences) but inside our living period the word "honesty" only becomes a path of what we should do but far from the real practice.

Are we aware of the Content we have? is it good? is it bad?
What we promote to others?
How we determine that what I am speaking will give positives results?
Why my concepts are different from reality?
What is the difference BTW knowledge & Practice?
Why I know what I should do but I don't do?

Everything goes by this phrase

"Repetitive behavior becomes a reinforced behavior & reinforced behavior becomes repetitive behavior".
I hope you could see the clarity of this Phrase..
This appeals to good and bad behavior... so we can look at it like this:

A robber that commits roberies is repeating his behavior, so his habit gets reinforced everytime he does it, stronger & stronger.
same thing, doing good to others when becomes a repetitive behavior will become reinforced and easy to do.
Any sport strategy needs to be repeated correctly, otherwise will become a repetitive error if the strategy is learned and practiced in a wrong way....

We can write a book about "honesty" and<<< do that means we are honest people? or is just that I learned the concept of it and i think I am honest because I admited few of my mistakes?

Have you ever thought about counting how many times you are honest and how many times you skip it?

lol, just a reflexion... is always helpful to evaluate ourselves to see were we are btw Knowledge & Practice.

:angelic:

see you next time.

TOYI1SOCCER - July 11, 2005 02:03 PM (GMT)
This time, I will talk about my experience on Saturday at a presentation we held on the street for some churches on a different state.
We played from 11am to 3Pm under the sun against all the oddest conditions like equipment sound, location, time, getting lost on the way there, etc but that at the end was not enough to take away our smiles and great effort that whatever we were doing was to grab at least 1 life from "life uncertainty itself".
Well I want to say I learned many many things that day, I think there is a cause for why we were there besides circumstances.

We were going to share the stage with some Trio (Spanish old-fashioned music), but plans changed at the last minute and we ended up sharing the stage with a band from Texas, they were schooled musicians and the guitarist was temptatibly good at playing the guitar, but the content on their lyrics was a bit poor (but of course was just according to their spiritual growth which I respect and find also myself at certain level), They opened the concert and while they were playing I was paying close attention to the full performance and checking the guitarist too (admiring his skills). More than1 of the young ones in my group approached to me whispering on my ear "Wow Toyi he is really good" I said, yes he is... as others were coming to me and saying the same thing... I stopped for a second because I started thinking uhh "Oh please I am not here to compete, competing is something I gave up when I decided to follow Christ" cause the purpose for me here at the concert is not to prove that guitarist that I can match up or or let him know that I am also a schooled musician.

So there I had the first temptation from the people approaching to me with those comments (and they didn't even realized it), very smooth and almost imperceptible. I focused on MY purpose there and I didn't get affected by the time I had to perform. I tell you is amazing how humans can as amble their own fights against others w/o even noticing it, like daring and competing & feeling against others w/o other even been aware of it. In the other hand, my friend that also plays guitar got extremely impressed, so impressed that when we played... she was not competing at that point but was intimidated enough in her own mind that made her go wrong in something she had been practicing for 6 months and doing perfectly before that instant. Well there is always something to learn about ourselves and when we start knowing ourselves deeply, we can develop a preventive warning, there is a point were we see the problem but react a bit late; as the growth goes on we may get to the point to master mind and acknowledge before we commit anything, but as I said, is something that goes with growing little by little.

Okay, I felt very welcomed by the people at the churches... they opened their houses to us and provided great comfort to our needs. Not everybody does that now days. Religious? Well they were extremely religious; we had to play with long skirts. But still a nice way for me to say "just let respect their thoughts" and please them for our love to them and the love for what we are doing, after all we were not going to put problems based on dressing, I believe we are a bit deeper than that & stick to our purpose there. Well I personally did not interact with the Texas band very much, I was expecting to have a chat with them at the end but they had to leave earlier.

:angelic:

TOYI1SOCCER - July 14, 2005 04:46 PM (GMT)
This time I would like to talk about "Unsatisfactions".

What the word unsatisfaction means in my dictionary?
Being unhappy with who I am or what I posses or anything that goes on around me.

Since we are borne, unsatisfaction comes with us and acts as a natural defense e.g.... a baby cries when is unsatisfied (meaning that he is wet or is hungry, etc etc), but we grow up, the time comes when we learn to wipe ourselves and eat ourselves but we can see that sometimes unsatisfaction was never given the right place and now that we have conscience we use unsatisfaction as a drug, there is a difference when things are taken normally than when external/Internal factor start influencing in the way we think and act sometimes.
If you notice our unsatisfaction behavior might be the same we had when we were kids with the difference that now as grown ups, we are experts simulation what we really aren’t and hiding what we really are.

Just make an experiment, and by this I mean, just grab a piece of paper sit and think
Am I an unsatisfied person? Going superficially you may think you don't but just stick to that paper and write every single thing you complaint about.
Whether (too hot too cold)
Too salty to sweet
Too much food, too little food
Too nice, not very nice
Too expensive or too cheap
Too big or too tiny
Too good or not too good
etc etc
You may find and get surprised how unsatisfied you are about life in general, and not even counting the unsatisfactions that are unreal but inside your head (like thinking, ohh what if I don't have money tomorrow?)
Lets pick the general idea and lets split it on its little branches

e.g. Oh I hate my job? (unsatisfaction in general)

1- well actually I don't like the time I have to be at work everyday
2- I don't like what I do there
3- I don't like the Jordan or Silvia or how my boss speaks. (Co-workers)
4-I don't like the clients
5-I don't like the building
6- I don't like the time they give for lunch.
7-I don't like the salary.
8-I don't like the traffic (going/coming from work)
9- the equipment is from Ice age.
So as you can see we turned the general Unsatisfactions to 9 unsatisfactions.

Man you see how unsatisfaction accompanies us day and night? And we are not even talking about our houses or other circles we move around.
You may say, well psychologists etc etc say that those things are normal. Well let me tell you that there is something called satisfaction and is what the world never teaches...The world teaches satisfaction towards obtaining which is not real Satisfaction.
The real Satisfaction is to be happy with what you have .
The world through all the TV and Hollywood movies etc , gives us a message that we need to trust in something in order to make ourselves worthy, they want to make us think that w/o a car or a house or a nice breast implant we are nothing, and as other people have said in some topics "TV or Hollywood" are not more than a show, let me say yes they are right until we decide to make that show our reality, We may say.... well TV does not affect people well well it may not affect everybody but TV does work for many people... otherwise there will be "TV commercial free.." don't you think?
Why you think business spend so much money advertising? well because they will triple what the pay by putting an add on TV. Is always good to revise if we are not imperceptibly sucked into the fantasy.
Hollywood is a little mask that even turns real events and tragedies into entertainment for people because the suffering and some untold story is worthy to squeeze some money from.
What we like about other people? do we like Michael Jordan? What we like about Jordan? Let see how Hollywood had touched us on this one...
E.g.
I think Jordan is cool because of...???? He is a person like me? Or because he plays very well? ohhh I guess I am confused now, I think at the end that I don't really care about Jordan... but I care and want his skills so I can? Impress others? why do I want his skills for? to help the poor? or just to play in my garage? ohh no no no I want his skills to show it off, to impress my friends, to be satisfied with myself, to have other people put their eyes on me, etc etc so I guess TV is just a show, but people wished through it and as I said they don't even realize it.
e.g
Another example.... Uhh let me see, ohh I want to be like "Britney" ohhh why I want to be like her? uhhh because she always speaks the truth? Or because she is very charitative? or because she has a nice body? or because she is rich? let just think what do you want her fame for? what if you obtain what Britney has? are you going to be satisfied when you have everything she has? or then you will try to reach the theaters? or run for politics? ohh I guess we can call that a very outgoing person uhh or what about we put the real name to it.

Unsatisfaction also works through different ways, have you ever heard some Band Lyrics? the way they want say the don't know what they want? Looking for answers? "I can't get no satisfaction" do you merely think that is just bla bling? well no is not they certainly are speaking their insides, is just that sometimes they don't know how to name it correctly... but is latent.
People that has everthing is always looking for something else and that is why they don't know what they want.

Well guys this is just my point of view, just to shed some more options about what we are exposed and what our insatisfaction roots come from, sometimes we may think that a TV is in front of you, but check that might be under your skin.
Is always being critiziced that reaching a level of conformity is bad (but that is only the world teaching) we can be the happiest people in the world if we only could give the right place to everything, after all what is more important? To work endless hours to develop stress and worries about what I want because of my insatisfaction or living a life worries free that will make me live longer and get in less trouble with the world (financially) cause as the world gives. The same way takes it.

Well Guys this is just Toyi's thought.

:angelic:

TOYI1SOCCER - July 24, 2005 04:06 AM (GMT)
Today I want to talk about “Falls”
As you may have experienced… a fall can be classified in different calibers
-The ones that we can get up ourselves
-The ones that we need help to get up.
-The ones in what we break a bone
-The ones that mark our life style forever (meaning that make great damage, but do not kill us).

The same way is with human nature, we have our ups and downs, sometimes we may experience situations that we can come out quickly, in some others we may need some help from our parents or good friends, some experiences may touch us deeply, but sometimes we like to suffer and voluntarily remain inside situations that are not big, but we give them the wrong amount of importance; those are the situations that can keep us spinning In one spot forever (bringing the last type of fall, The ones that mark our life style forever) Some of this falls bring us into personality disorders called “Depressions, sadness, or these stages can also turn the human mind into a piece of incoherent thoughts & can damage permanently a life.
Men is the only animal that eats w/o being hungry, talks w/o having anything meaningful to say & have sex w/o procreating and is also the only one that has the grace & tools to develop from a child to a real thinker. But human sometimes get lost on the purpose of developing their capacities to make a great world and make a life joyable, they sometimes rather to consume themselves into themselves and remain the rest of their lives spinning in one spot were time & space passes along and their lives become an unbearable load.
Sometimes humans get so busy distracted outside, that they forget the joy is something that was delivered along with birth and they can do everything under the most joyable attitude to help others to get up.

TOYI1SOCCER - August 17, 2005 04:17 AM (GMT)
This time I will talk about “Fears”

Do you fear something? Have you ever gone dept listing your fears, find why & get it solved?

I tell you there are 3 types of fears:

1-The ones were transmitted from our parents since our childhood because those were their own fears or unintentionally transmitted.
2-The ones that natural mechanisms of defense &
3-The ones we create in our head. (This last one could be funny sometimes because could be based in the most stupid things & we know it lol)

I tell you about my own experience with fears… lol.

Following the point # 1 lol when I was a child (around 6 years old) I had used go to the movies with my dad, the previews were a mix of movies w/o rating classification, one time I saw the preview of a horror movie; the movie was about an evil shadow (people’s own shadow in the darkness) that would turn against themselves decapitating them. Well that was pretty strong preview for a 6-year-old girl wasn’t it? Lol well since then I could not sleep well or even stand well because I was afraid of my shadow… amazingly, I never communicated this situation to dad so he never knew about what I was going through at my 6 years old life, I grew up with it and one day I was taken into the “Boy scouts” (Not girlscouts okay, I was in the Boy scouts lol) we were used to do camping and we had lots of “Nighttime games” In the woods, where we learned “survival techniques” that required to be left alone in the middle of the forest and sometimes hiding creating the less noise as possible, have people walk by your side w/o acknowledging your near presence, etc… That was the only way I could overcome that fear, by being exposed to it.

The second point (natural defense) My country lived a war and was very common to have snipers climbing and hidden on your own backyard trees, well in order to avoid being one more victim for them, we were used to keep our windows closed and avoid standing near doors or windows, lol well when I arrived here to US was so funny that here the houses have those nice open windows with a nice strong tree right outside lol
Well at the beginning, specially at night time, I was so unable to be calmed watching TV next to a wide open window, I was totally incapable to enjoy the TV because the light inside the house kept me away from controlling what was going on with the trees outside (‘cause the lights inside the house makes the sight towards the outside impossible. I would try to watch TV and ignore it, but I will not concentrate until I walked and shut the window/door curtain. Lol)
On this one, again, by exposure I learned to calm down, I would say that still gets me but in less scale than before. Now I can stay w/o shutting the curtain, but still I tend to give a little sight.

About the 3rd point! I just remember one of this days, I was driving towards my old workplace. Then while driving I started thinking about accidents that are very common in my origin country (busses competing to each other in a one lane curve sticking against cars that are coming the opposite lane), well lol I connected the street I was driving on with the experience at that moment, I said “Uhhh these curves are so dangerous? What if 2 cars are competing right now over the incoming curve and they strike on me? I suddenly started slowing down and down and down and I past the curve almost at 5 mph, then I realized what I was doing and I said lol well this is ridiculous, why I did that? Only because I thought too much about it? I had used to ride on this road for the last 3 years & I never felt so intimidated until I thought about the “what if” lol well

Is good to realize about our fears, classify them and give them the place where they belong in order to overcome them, i bet you have a long list if you can think of the tiny things but are not so tiny to make you act reasonably.
Not every single fear has the same treatment, but you can trust it on someone mature or life experience (like parents) so you can grow and be on top of them when the situation arrives.

:rolleyes: :ashamed: :blush:

TOYI1SOCCER - September 30, 2005 03:47 AM (GMT)
Today I will be talking about = our value!

How much we cost as human being?
What does determine our value? Importance? Intelligence? Do we know? Good question isn’t it?
In the common world our value is determined easily, we have value according if we were rich or poor. (in any aspect, it doesn’t necessary has to be about money)

At higher wealth >> more security/ At lower wealth>> less security.

If I am wealthy losing something is not too painful, but if I am poor then if I loss something I might be losing possibly everything!
Wealthy or not wealthy… Do I have the need of somebody?
Do we depreciate like the dollar?
What is the value I give to the people around me? Are we constant in the value we give to them?
What determines the value that I give to my friends?
Does it depend on their attention towards me? Do they get me out of trouble? Are they my friends just because of nothing? What determines the line where friends become enemies? What determines the change of role from one side to another? Why I was used to respect him/her but why now I don’t? What is the explanation for that? Very selfish isn’t it.. let me answer that..
I don’t respect her/him?
Because they don’t agree with me.
Because they mark my failures.
Because they don’t lie along with me
Because they no longer think I am cool.
Because they didn’t pet me when I expected them to do so.

Oh quite realistic answers, this is just a taste to find out what selfish we are 100% of the times, why is so difficult for us to think back word? Why I expect to be loved without giving anything in return? Why they all have to agree with me? Why they all have to admit that I am right?

Value? Is not the same to walk through a bad neighborhood with $5 in my pocket than walking with $200, you see tension is different and why? Because we give a different value to it.

We all have talents, but we exploit one and we think that I am great, my success stops right there with the feeding of myself.
What is the most beautiful thing about yourself?
What is the most ugly thing about yourself?
Do we show our ugly parts?
Do we hide our beauty?
Lol I don’t need to answer that lol you do it.
Why we show the likes and hide the dislikes? Oh I see we don’t want to feel rejected because we don’t want people to know the monster lol , but we think we are natural, there is no better than our families at home that really get to know our hidden personality, we cannot just fake everywhere, it has to come out somewhere.
So what is the value we face before this situation? Do we have 1 or 2 or maybe 3 different values? One at home, one at work or school, etc.
What is yours?


To be continued...

TOYI1SOCCER - January 6, 2006 02:00 AM (GMT)
Okay today I just want to remark about the great year I had and get ready for the incomming year, I love to analize what I call it "remark" and why I call it remark.

Certainly I like to live my today and not to spin too much about future or past cause the past is gone and the future has not come in yet, is not very wise to plan deeply and assume that I will be alive in ten years or even the next second lol yet I am not against planing has longest I don't dig it too much. lol

Everybody has plans and for a second I think about those who are in the morgue at this instant, but yet this morning were alive and thinking that nothing would happen, people with goals and with a mind full of dreams too.

Well at some point is not very wise to think death will never reach us lol

well, I'd like to give thanks to my Creator and also to those who one way or another he had used to make me stronger in areas of my life.

2005 has been defenetly a great year; full of endurance, health and also the food has been on my table w/o hesitation. I "love more" than my previous year and that will be always a (+).

See you next time :angelic:

TOYI1SOCCER - October 18, 2007 12:37 AM (GMT)
What happened here????

At the beginning of times God created earth and also human being, he created Adam the father of earth (at this point Adam is under God’s command) Genesis 1:28-30 as you can see God made Adam owner and handler of the entire earth.
But there was Lucifer an angel that decided in his heart to be like God, he came and misled Eve into his feeling to be like God disguised as a serpent Genesis 3:4-5 (Lucifer was actually telling the truth, their eyes would be opened but Lucifer intentions where not just tell the truth but to drag them into his feeling to be like God).
Men eyes were opened in fact after trying the tree fruit and they felt guilt and shame, they realized they were nude& hid from God’s presence Genesis 3:8-12 Adam answers “The woman you gave me” (here we can see the 1st excuse of men kind towards God, yes no difference than today and not expecting less today, here a common one …it has been translated so many times etc etc bla bla bla instead of recognizing that the feeling to be like God was born in their own hearts too after Lucifer’s temptation and continues to be that way, not allowing naturally to God be their commander anymore) With Lucifer’s rebellion lots of angels also left God’s side believing in his ambitions.
Here a very important key, notice that at the beginning God was commanding Adam and Adam was commanding earth (Genesis1:28-30)… since Adam fell under Lucifer, Adam gets automatically off God’s command consequently the entire earth under Adams command falls also under Lucifer’s command, God cursed Earth & also cursed Adam impossing death on him.. this way Lucifer gains the keys of the Hades or also known as the Key of the Abyss or(keys of the death) Revelations 9:1 since then every man that is born under Adam nature is mortal because falls under the holder of the key of the Abyss Lucifer & has to die as a consequence; men automatically becomes a sinner and a wrong doer just by the fact that is not under God’s command but living in cursed earth and after death hold captive by Lucifer.

At the beginning was!!
GOD
V
ADAM
v
EARTH

After Lucifer's rebellion
LUCIFER
V
ADAM
v
EARTH



To be continued!!!
:angelic:

TOYI1SOCCER - October 28, 2007 09:59 PM (GMT)
What separates Believers from Disciples...

Went to check the 10 comendments today, the movie was not displayed in all the teathers (like any movie) and was not seen by everybody (like any other movie)
Loved it!!! Just enough for kids... not too long not too short.


:wave:




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