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er well..........today i found out my friend is gay........if you want the full story
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i'm still going to be friends with her and it won't change a thing, it's just a surprise when you find that out, you know?

so have any of you had that experience? and what did you do? or if you haven't, what do you think you'd do?

When I was twelve I found my first boyfriend. He was the "weird one" at school, and he had been after me for a few months to go out with him. Me with my low-self esteem and chubbiness (though he's chubby as well) thought he may have just been playing around with me, and not very serious. (I'm about the most cynical person you'll ever meet. I always look for the worst before I peek a bit higher. ;))

Anyway, school ended and during summer vacation I did some serious thinking. Eventually I just called him and brought the subject up... this time saying yes. I'm not one to shun someone because they are "weird" or "different", and granted I took a lot of hell at school for it. It was quite awkward, to say the least. Most of the time we had a hidden relationship because people...suck.

We were together for roughly two years, still being mostly good friends. There really was no "love", now that I look back on it, and I feel there never was. Things happened, some things didn't. Eventually, one night he said, "You know... I have to tell you something?"

By this time I feel we both wanted to get out of the "officialness" of our relationship. It had been nearly two years, and he was comfortable and trusting enough to tell me he was gay. I think perhaps he wanted to be with me to see if he wasn't, but I of course I wasn't ready to give my body out at such a young age. I don't know if that had anything to do with it, but it was the right decision nonetheless.

It was no shock when he told me he was gay. I just said, "That's okay." or something with a smile, which I think shocked him a bit. We talked about it, ended our official relationship, and today we are VERY good friends. He's one of the few people who can make me laugh to the point of tears, and I'm always grateful for having him in my life.

You seem to be a bit understanding of the issue, but if your friend hasn't told you specifically to your face that she's gay, she probably doesn't want many people knowing. She's at a tender age where these things can rip her apart. The rumors, the pointed fingers, etc.

If you really like your friend, stand by her. I feel she will need it, because this day in age there are still many homophobic people out there who feel anything outside the "normal" is "wrong".

People need to realize there simply is no "normal", but a simple fear of what's unknown.

I've actually had two from a group of friends from highschool tell me they were gay...well actually one said he was gay and the other said he was bi.

Anyway I could tell from hanging out with them that they had somewhat "homosexual tendencies," but I never said anything. They were really good friends, always having my back in times of crisis, so I didn't let that stop me from hanging out with them.

Around 4 months ago, my friend confessed to me that he was gay (no shock really), then 2 months later my other friend told me he had an "encounter" with another guy and that he enjoyed it yet he still liked women and then he said, "I think I'm bi." (To the administrators, if you find something offensive in anyway, go ahead and change things to what you see is fit.)

I told them both that they were really good people and that it didn't matter if they were gay, bi, or whatever...it doesn't change a thing and that we would still be good friends and we all are up to now.

Mikage is right snortstah, If you really consider her a friend, you should understand her and stick with her.

You should tread the water carefully when you talk to your friend about this. Have her bring it up first before saying anything. Most of all have her back, as Mikage said, Its gona be hard for her!

I know alot of gay people. I mean I work in
Fashion Island mall in Newport Beach!!! In that
mall it seems like they advertise^_^ I also have
friends both male and female that are gay.

I really could care less as long as my friends are
happy and stick by me when I'm in need of a friend.
The only one that bothers me is my friend Quentin
because he hits on me when he's drunk :blink:

I find them to be braver than me at times because
even though the world may frown upon them the
don't lie to themselves and others. So they deserve
my friendship and respect. I mean it's not like it's a
sickness or something that needs to be cured. It's
just a choice they have the right to make. I mean I
would hate it if the shoe was on the other foot and I
was told I wasn't aloud to like women.

I'D GO POSTAL!!!

There not any less of a person and I'm sure within time
society will get over their judgmental asses and worry
more about the choices they make than those of others.

TD

I'm like TD in that I know a lot of gay people. It's just par for the course in my business. But I remember clearly the first time anyone told me they were gay.

I was 18 and completely in love with this guy. We shared 2 college classes together. I always sat next to him and started conversations. Well, eventually we became friends. We were having lunch oneday when he told me. He said he thought that I might have had stronger feelings for him than he could return. Of course I lied and said I didn't. I put on the brave smile the rest of the day until I was alone. I cried my eyes out. But the very next day, I was hanging out with him again. We even helped each other find boyfriends.

He's still a great friend of mine. :wub:

--duotrouble