No, this isn't a"What is love?" debate.


This kinda got me thinking..it may seem small to others, but I dunno >__>

Lets say you have a wife/husband and you love each other..when all of a sudden, they die. My question is..what do you do? Move on..or stay single cause you love the person who died?

Just because someone dies is no reason to give up on love. If that were true, then the same should go for breakups and divorces (because in all cases someone's leaving and it's only mutual some of the time).

Well..I mean..would it be right to move on? They aren't really broken up since their relationship wouldn't be over..Like they didn't say "I'm done with you". The person just died..and you had feelings for that person still.

I think it would depend on the person. I mean, in most traditional marriages, the vows are "until death do us part". So as far as commitment, it's not like you're cheating on them or anything.

On the other hand, you devoted your life to this person, and so it would be easy to feel guilty for looking for someone else to love.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that there's nothing wrong with getting remarried, it just depends on the person whether or not they feel like looking for love again.

Well... I personally believe in the thought that everything happens for a reason.

If my spouse died, it would be for a reason; showing that God has someone else out there for me to go to. In other words, I wouldn't fall in love, get married and then be heartbroken for no reason.

I think that it'd be fine if I moved on... I mean, sure, I love that person, and I will always treasure their memory, but when I find the means to move on from him, then I will wait for the next person... I don't think I'd go out and search for someone... Although, if someone happened upon me, I might give 'em a chance... Depending.

I also think it all depends on the person.

And the situation.

Let's say you're in your twenties, and your spouse/significant other dies. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life alone? Do you think they would want you to live alone? I would sure hope not.

I can understand if you're considerably older..let's say in your 60's-70's, and you've been married 40-50 years. In that case, I think someone would never want to fall in love or marry again. You spent your life together with that person.

But then again, it all depends on the person.

I dunno. It depends on age, like Katrak said.

I know my mom is... maybe, 40? Last year, her boyfriend of... er, 10 years? passed away. She has a new boyfriend now. I thought it was a little... soon. But I think she just needs someone to be comfortable, and I know there are a lot of people like that... And she is still young (I guess, haha). And on the other hand, my grandma passed away a few months ago, and I don't see my step-grandpa going out to find someone. He's older, though, like... in his 60's.

It depends on the person, and the situation.

I'm not one to get that emotional in public...but i'd probably be killing myself inside, and happy outside, like another friend of mine does. Then i'd eventually turn crazy and revive communist russia.

Hm... Again. I think I might wait. I mean, I wouldn't go out an search, but, if I were in my 20 or 30's and my husband died... I wouldn't be going out to clubs, partying and "getting it on" with other people...
I would wait to see what all there is in store for me, because it happened for a reason.

You know I happened to think about it, and nobody said it depends on the one who passed away.

I mean, you know that depending on what type of person you are, the thoughts of your past loved one are still bobbing in your head, and along with the possible guilt of trying to find somebody else, you get that, "what would THEY want me to do?" sort of feeling.

And you know how in the movies, the one who's still alive is all, "Well...I know So-And-So would want me to move on with my life..."

I guess that's a factor too. Personally, I do agree with JJ about the vows. It IS "till death" and technically, I mean not to sound insensitive, but technically, death happened...and therefore the vow's been fulfilled...

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